9 Paths to Personal Growth
Everyone wants more out of life, whether it’s to find love, get a fulfilling career, or achieve financial stability. But what if your goals seem out of reach? These personal growth strategies can help put you in a better position to achieve those goals.
First and foremost, follow your own path. One of the most common “deathbed regrets” is living a life prescribed by someone else. Think about your own life — is there any area you’re trying to live up to the expectations of others? Are you overly influenced by the opinion of others? If so, how could you change this?
1. Identify your strengths
Working on your weaknesses can help you grow, but working on your strengths is the path to excellence. To identify your strengths, think about things you’re good at, things that make you lose track of time or things that make you happy. What are the commonalities? There are also many online surveys you can take to help you learn your strengths.
2. Identify your intrinsic motivations
Think over your life and identify things you did for pure enjoyment, and not for some reward, payment or benefit. These things you are intrinsically motivated to do, are sources of happiness and engagement. Can you integrate them into your work or other areas of life?
3. Face a fear
To grow, at some point you must be brave and step out of your comfort zone. Do things regularly that scare you. Take proper precautions if this involves any danger or risk — of course.
4. Get feedback
By definition, you can’t see your blind spots. Speak to a trusted friend about yourself, are there any areas in which you could grow? Are you holding yourself back in any way? Are any of your behaviors unknowingly destructive or self-destructive? What advice would they have?
5. Set goals
Look ahead and decide what you will achieve in the next year, the next 5 years, and the next 10 years. You can do this in multiple areas such as work, health, or relationships. Design a step-by-step plan for achieving these goals.
6. Build your skill set
Of all the goals, pick the most important one and identify a skill, trait or habit that will help you achieve it. Spend time each week developing it, ideally at least an hour a day if possible.
7. Consult your best self
If you ever feel stuck and can’t decide on a course of action, ask yourself, “What would the best version of myself do and why?” Use that answer to guide your next move.
8. Challenge your beliefs
To grow and expand, you need to challenge your ideas and beliefs. For example, if you’re progressively minded/oriented, visit conservative websites. If you’re a vegan, look into arguments in favor of meat consumption. This change in perspectives will also help you understand other people.
9. One step at a time
Of course, you don’t need to follow all of these measures at once. They each involve a lot of mental and emotional energy, and you’ll need time to reflect and process your experiences. Just pick one area and work on it for a few weeks. After that, you can move on to another. Be patient and persist; the results will build up over time.